According to unemotional statistical data, singlehood is the scourge of Singapore population. The percentage of single men and women in 2000 was 51,7%, in 2015 it became almost 20% higher, that is 71,4%. This data concerns singles from 25 to 29 years old, the age seemed to be mature enough to start up families and get married. No wonder, that international and local dating sites are prospering and attract more and more users. With a rapid pace of life in Singapore, on-line dating is an effective tool to find a partner, a potential husband/wife, or just a friend to go to the bar. It saves time, energy and gives a chance to retreat in time without an annoying showdown.
Though, it would be not honest to say that in the virtual dating world only singles and loners inhabit. Indeed, many men and women in relationships, or in a marriage, visit dating sites from time to time, or on a regular basis, and often hide that from their partners. And nowadays the situation when a wife finds out that her husband has a profile on a dating site happens as often as the situation when she catches him in the unholy act. But how to react to such a situation is not always clear. So, what to do and what to think if the husband on a dating site is a not fictional one, but yours?
Before undertaking any measures dictated by emotions and the first instinctive reactions, take a deep breath, drink a glass of water, count from on 1 to 10 and whatever to calm down and stop yourself from imagining the worst. The fact that your husband uses dating sites may not be so disastrous, though he should not be there. The world as well as people is not black or totally white. There should be other colors and tints.
The first reason to consider is that dating sites like Cupid or Tinder focus now on helping users to find like-minded friends, and do not limit themselves to matchmaking. Their goals are to link people with the same interests, hobbies, activities, and even Facebook likes. The second reason to think over is the self-esteem of your husband. In case he is profoundly narcissistic, he might use dating sites to check his charms and assure himself that his magnetism has not disappeared over time. If those are your cases, then there is no sense to confront and undermine your relationships with your distrust and suspicions. And the last thing to meditate on is whether you want to keep marriage despite that fact that your husband did want to have an on-line affair without any obligations and did not want to make any friends. If your answer is ‘Yes’, then this situation happened to give you the pause for thought and try to save you family by re-evaluating and improving your relationships.